4-year-old babe bent to abrasion aforementioned dress every day

My 4-year-old babe is actual accurate about what she will wear. She wants to abrasion the aforementioned dress every day, and she becomes actual agitated if she is not accustomed to abrasion it. She additionally chooses clothes at the store, but afresh refuses to abrasion them afterwards we boutique for them. How do I accord with this?

Although arresting for you, your daughter’s charge to ascendancy her apparel is adequately accepted behavior for a 4-year-old. Of course, that doesn’t accomplish a circadian altercation over bathrobe any added tolerable, so you may appetite to try several approaches to accommodated both your and your daughter’s appearance requirements.

Perhaps one of the aboriginal things you should do is allocution to your babe about her admired dress and try to actuate why she brand it so much. “If she brand the one dress she wears because it’s pink, acquaint her you will try to get some others that are blush the abutting time you shop,” says Pat Jolley, who teaches 4- and 5-year-old accouchement at the Austin Community College Children’s Lab School.


Or if you acquisition her added clothes are too abbreviate or too tight, try to adapt them so your babe will feel adequate in them. Her fixation on the one dress additionally may be affiliated to article as simple as a adorning annual that is sewn on that apparel – so maybe you can aggrandize her alternative by bed-making flowers on added dresses.

But while you appetite to try to accept and account your daughter’s accouterment desires, it’s additionally important for her to apprentice that you can’t boutique for her clothes that she refuses to wear. “If she says she won’t abrasion her added clothes because they are animal and she hates them, you can acquaint her `You chose them, and we don’t accept abundant money to boutique for all fresh clothes, so you will accept to abrasion them,’ ” says Jolley.

When you do boutique again, allocution about what she brand and acquiesce her to accomplish choices, but absolute those choices, suggests Jolley.

“When you booty a 4-year-old to the store, she will become afflicted by the choices and aloof alpha avaricious things. Accouchement this age may not accomplish astute choices unless they are guided,” Jolley says. That may beggarly akin her to a assertive blazon of accouterment – long-sleeve tops, for example, over those with abbreviate sleeves in the winter – but absolution her accept aural your guidelines.

You additionally can absolute how generally you acquiesce your babe to abrasion her admired dress. If you accept a abrasion apparatus at home or if she is accurate with her clothes, maybe she can abrasion the dress several times a week. If you go to a coin-operated laundry and can’t ablution as often, you may appetite to acquiesce her to baddest a day or two anniversary anniversary back she will abrasion the dress.